I do

I will be proposing to you soon, sonrisa.

You and I have already talked about how the divorce rate is so high, so what makes us think we’ll be any different?

It comes down to a few things.  Here’s one of the biggest:

Commitment. 

I want you to know that I am committed on making our relationship work. I don’t believe in “falling out of love.”  Nobody falls out of love. They stop working at their relationship.  I want this to serve as a reminder of my commitment to you, and to working at our relationship.

How Do I Know that You Are the One?

I want to spend the rest of my life with YOU, Tiffany Marie, because:

…The relationship has gone smoothly since the beginning. We have had a few fights, but they are healthy fights.  That’s to be expected.  We have been together from the beginning (no break ups and getting back together).  To put it plainly, everything has been so natural.

…We get along well with each other’s family and friends.  What else can I say?  I enjoy being with your family, and your friends.  And I know you enjoy my family and friends.  They all have only good things to say about you!

…There is nothing I would change about you.  Neither of us will fundamentally change once we are married.  I’m sure we both have little things that get on each other’s nerves.  (But hey, only if I were perfect would I never get on your nerves. I’m glad I’m not perfect.)  I love that you are a woman of character, service, passion, and honor. We have these things in common.

…You are my best friend.  Beyond attraction and chemistry, you are my best friend. I love being in your presence and sharing my life with you.  When we are old and gray (or bald!) and wrinkly, what will hold us together will be the fact that we can share anything with each other.

…The thought of marrying you only excites me (and doesn’t scare me).  Since we first met and started dating, I haven’t had one second thought.  On tv and in movies some guys talk about “cold feet.”  Cold what?  I have never had to think about whether I am making the right decision or not.  I can’t live without you!

(I have to give credit to Brett and Kate McKay for the putting ideas on “the one” into words).

Family blessing

Today we got back from visiting Grand Island for Easter.

This was finally my opportunity to talk to your mom and Kim in person and let them know my intention to ask you to marry me. I want their blessing!

You know how I am bad at keeping secrets or sneaking around, but I finally was able to talk to them each individually. I got to Kim first while you and your mom were taking a walk yesterday.

I think you knew what was going on today when I asked you to wait in the car while I thanked your mom, but that's the only opportunity I had all weekend! (right before we were headed back to Omaha)

Normally I'm pretty good about expressing my feelings, so I don't get too nervous or have to write things down. But asking your mom and Kim for their blessing was nerve racking and I want to do it right.

So... I wrote a note in my wallet and had it with me all weekend. Here's what the note said, although when I actually talked to your parents I didn't pull it out. I don't think I did as well on my improv version, but here's what it was suppose to be, according to my note:


Diana and Kim -

I love Tiffany. I love who she is as a person.  I love how she treats people around her. I love her smile and how funny she is.  I want to spend the rest of my life with her and take care of her. I want to know if you would give me your blessing to ask her to marry me.